I Took the Risk!
I follow one of my preferred fitness instructors on YouTube for her instructional videos. Recently, she shared very candidly about her personal life. In two of her recent videos, she shared that she married a long time ago but divorced. Since then, she dated another fitness instructor for five years and broke up.
Now, she claims to have found “her person” and is in another relationship. It made me wonder. She took her followers on her relationship journey with her ex-boyfriend for the last five years and then broke up. Now her followers are expected to journey with her in her new relationship. Considering that she had been previously married, her track record is less than grand. This is a psychological mess for her and her followers.
Falling Out of Love
However, I did get affected by someone’s social media activity recently. One of my all-time favorite people in the world likes doing a weekly Instagram Live where he sings a jazzy version of popular songs. Two weeks ago, he posted a break-up song cover. It was a technical gem, as usual. Psychologically, it affected me deeply.
After watching his Instagram Live, I searched online for other people singing it (including the original artist). I noticed that my eyes became moist, and the song dragged me down unnecessarily. After that, I voiced my objection to the person. I pointed out that I was triggered and how it might have affected countless others negatively. I think now he will be more careful about the songs he chooses to go live with.
Ready for the Psychological Load?
The hard truth is that while these are people going through experiences and expressing emotions, this is not the reality for a subscriber. To assume the psychological load of a stranger is similar to psychological suicide. This is only one problematic aspect of the psychological dangers of following personalities on social media. Our real-life relationships and lives are complicated and take work. As a subscriber, entering into someone else’s journey carries unnecessary vicarious trauma.
Make the Call
Today, when mental health awareness is at the forefront, we must care for ourselves.” Unfollowing” or unsubscribing as soon the content takes an intensely personal turn can help with this. When possible, you can point out to these people that their content affects you negatively. It will also help someone. Hopefully, they will be willing to listen and take a step back to consider their content.